Fran Drescher Is in a Relationship With Herself—And Here's Why 'It’s Going Quite Well'
In life and work, Fran Drescher says she’s reached the realization that “life is just too short to spend time with people you don’t enjoy.” It’s why her new show, Indebted, which features a cast and crew she adores, was the right fit for her. And it’s how she recently has found love—with herself.
The star of The Nanny, Happily Divorced and now Indebted; producer; author; and survivor of cancer, violent crime and two divorces, says she’s learned to push herself—and be proud of being an independent woman. Now after considerable success, she’s celebrating her relationship with herself. “For me to find myself at a time in my life where I’m truly happy by myself, in my life, in my home, with my friends, my family, and my dog, and happy in my own skin, it’s a new dimension to this experience called life,” Drescher exclusively told Parade.com.
She wasn’t always this comfortable being alone. “At another point in my life, if I was home, I had to stay on the phone all the time because I really didn’t want to be alone,” she shared.
But today she relishes her own company. “I’m finally at peace,” the 62-year-old explained. “I am comfortable being by myself and I can totally appreciate days when I’ve had enough of being surrounded by people. Sometimes I just want to spend quiet time at home.”
She added that with meditation, therapy and the love of family and friends, she has done a great deal of work on herself. “I’ve faced my fears and I’ve really tried to fix what was broken. The more you are aware of being present, the more you can slow life down and it doesn’t phase you when the years go by because you weren’t in your head in the past or the future, you were there every minute,” she said.
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, Drescher is proud to say that she’s happily single. “I am a 62-year-old woman who for the first time is really an independent woman and very proud of myself,” she said. “I’m not in a relationship with someone right now because I really love the feeling of being by myself and enjoying it, without fear or feeling like I’ve got to meet someone. I don’t have to meet someone. I found myself.”
Her Indebted character, however, is a different story. Drescher plays one half of a couple in financial trouble, who turns the lives of their grown son and his family upside down.
When Debbie (Drescher) and her husband Stew (Steven Weber) show up broke out of the blue, their son Dave (Adam Pally) and his wife Rebecca (Abby Elliott) have no choice but to invite them to move into their home.
The new sitcom created by The Goldberg’s Dan Levy, about how family members can push our buttons one moment and have us hugging the next, premiered last night on NBC.
Drescher spoke to Parade.com ahead of its premiere about her new character, how she’s spending Valentine’s Day and the plans for The Nanny musical.
How are Fran Fine from The Nanny and Deb from Indebted similar?
I think Deb has a lot of the qualities that we’ve come to love about Fran Fine. There’s a lot of similarities to them. So, I think the audience is going to enjoy that kind of synergy between my most beloved character and this new one.
Why was this show a good fit for your return to primetime TV?
Deb is a very vivacious character, an immature character and a Jewish character. In a million ways, this is something that I feel very comfortable doing. She’s very glamorous; is a clotheshorse; and is also very loving, tactile and nurturing. I love that the show is about family because that is key for me. I love Deb and everyone involved. If there was one bad apple I wouldn’t be there.
I also think that on behalf of a lot of ladies my age, that it’s nice to represented as a hot character that has a strong sexual relationship with her husband that she adores. You don’t really see that on multi-generational sitcoms. As soon as I became part of this project they tailored the character to be the kind of woman that I would want to play.
We love what you recently said about “dating yourself,” what did you mean by that exactly?
I believe that I’m on a journey of self-refinement. The ties that have bound me are the very things that I have to work through. The fears and everything that comes my way, good or bad, is my opportunity on my journey to self-refinement. I try not to be codependent like I was in the past.
In what way?
A lot of my decisions were informed by either being a people-pleaser, being afraid of being alone, or being a caregiver and at the same time, avoiding my problems by giving myself a false sense of having my stuff together because I’m so helpful to everybody else. But because I was the victim of a violent crime, and because I am a cancer survivor, I have been into some major psychotherapy, and because I am a Buddhist, I see everything as opportunities for me to become the best version of myself and to keep aspiring toward that with every turn of events. To say that I’m in a relationship with myself, and it’s going quite well, is really all of the above.
